With the rupture and reorganization of secular concepts, the opening of human cognition, and the development of social tolerance, people's definition of beauty has become more and more personalized. Amid the beauty, fat has been redefined and become a brand new fashion.
In addition to the change in concept, the promotion of the body positive movement has also made fat fetish a niche label for fat admirers. Here in this article, some new things about fat fetish and the fat fetish community will be introduced.
As cliché as it may seem, conceptual stuff can often make you more aware of your role without getting confused when you have a problem.So, hopefully you can find your own niche in the "tabs" below.
Fat fetish & fat admirer: Fat fetishism is a sexual attraction directed towards overweight or obese people due primarily to their weight and size. Admirers are guys who appreciate gainers, bloaters and/or the act of gaining, but don't take an active role as encouragers do.
BHM: Big Handsome Man (BHM), or Big Hulking Men, or sometimes Big Beautiful Man (BBM), refers to a physically or sexually attractive fat man.
Chubs: In the gay community, BHMs are sometimes called "chubs".
Chubby chaser: Men who are attracted to BHMs are known as chubby chasers.
Feeder & feedee: A person who enjoys eating for sexual pleasure called feedee; while a feeder is referred to a male who likes to encourage weight gain in his partner through the consumption of food.
Padder: A person who derives pleasure from padding or layering clothing.
Body shame: Body-shaming, more specifically weight-shaming of men and women, is a widely known characteristic of sizeism, shown in the form of prejudice and discrimination can include both skinny shaming and fat shaming.
Human pups & handlers: Handler is the Human who looks after a Pup or group of Pups who are engaging in Puppy Play. Pups: Pups are humans who take on the role of a Puppy/Dog.
Gainers & Encouragers: Gainers are guys who like the idea or physical act of growing bigger, fatter and/or rounder; Encouragers are guys who like the idea or physical act of helping someone else grow bigger.
Bears, Chubs: Chub is used to describe any man who is overweight
Where there are differences there will be biases, and the same goes for fat fetish groups. The narrowness of real life often spawns new gated communities that allow fat admirers to express themselves unfettered. PlusCupid is one of them.
PlusCupid is a BBW social platform, dedicated to prejudice elimination, authenticity and effectiveness, female-friendliness, inclusiveness and openness. And one of its important properties, body positivity, provides a positive ecological perception to the fat fetish and fat admirer population, enabling them to love for love.
PlusCupid offers a BBW dating app focusing on providing BBWs, BHMs, curvy singles, and curvy lovers with a community to match, chat and meet. Some of the app’s features can provide you with a unique experience.
Unlimited Matches:PlusCupid allows the unlimited slide for your fat fetish matches and date.
Rewind:If you missed the one you like, you can rewind the profile and like again.
Message before Matching:On PlusCupid, you can DM the people as long as they appear on your match proposals.
Instant Photo:PlusCupid protects your portraiture right by sending instant photos, which can only be browsed for 10s, and screenshot is prohibited.
Viewing Who Likes You:You can view who likes you on PlusCupid and follow back for mutual likes and matches.
Grokio is a BHM dating - fat fetish community that helps you explore your identity, connect with others who truly understand you.
On Grokio, there are communities like Grommr, Feabie, Chasable, Ferzu and Pupspace.
Grommr - A gainer-encourager community for gay and bisexual fat fetish men who enjoy gaining, bigness and a larger than life attitude.
Feabie- Feabie is a dating site for fat fetish including feeders, feedees, fat admirers and BBW/BHM, also a feedism community for fat admirers who love fat admiration, feeding and a mindset for growth.
Chasable- A chub-bear community for gay and bisexual men that celebrates plus-size men and body positivity.
Whether you’re looking for dates or friends who share your fandom & interest, your passions or your kink, there’s always a Grokio community for you.
If you’re in Nepal, you’re more likely to be considered a better friend if you’re curvy than if you’re "cut".
In Belize, the melting pot of cultures and ethnicities makes a single definition of a "pin-up body" hard to pin down. But guys with a "belly roll" or three are considered more tender, caring, cute, even more fun.
It’s not so much about what your body looks like, as how you choose to show it off. If you’re making the most of "what god gave you," and dressing to impress, your waistline is by-the-by.
In Jamaica, fat is associated with wealth and health, kindness and vitality. The big buttocks, thighs and breasts that make up the "Coca-Cola bottle" ideal are sexy, but they’re also powerful.
As the Jamaican scholar Dr. Sonjah Stanley Niaah puts it, "If you have no meat on your bones, the society can't see your wealth, your progress, your being."
And in Dancehall culture, it’s how you move your body that matters. So it’s interesting that recent research suggests many fat-positive societies – including American Samoa, Puerto Rico and Tanzania – have flipped their values and are now fat-negative.
The beauty of a big body has given way to a more "Western" way of looking at obesity: as a symbol of personal failure. Yet it’s actually the skinny ideal that is the anomaly in our long human history of scarcity and hunger.
In 1908, Joseph Szombathy, an Austro-Hungarian archeologist with an enviable beard, found, on the banks of the Danube, the so-called Venus of Willendorf. At 11 cm tall, and between 25,000 and 27,000 years old, she is one of the most famous artifacts illustrating obesity in the archeological record. What the Venus means is a mystery. Archeologists and anthropologists can only speculate.
If you were around in Paleolithic times, you might have worshiped this fuller figure in a fertility ritual. Or perhaps you would have used figurines like this as a teaching device.
Whatever her purpose, this Venus, and others discovered in sites stretching from the Pyrenees to Siberia, are rare and treasured finds – suggesting that the fat body might have been a potent symbol of abundance and vitality.
And for good reason. While fat’s symbolism has shifted today, ancient societies may have understood that the human machine needs fat to function well.
At birth, humans are the fattest species on record – some 15 per cent of our body weight is fat. And by the time we’re nine months, that figure swells to a quarter. Only young guinea pigs and harp seals can challenge the chubbiness of human babies. You might guess that we have this fat to keep us warm in chilly ice ages gone by.
You’d be wrong. The massive human brain saps up to 60 per cent of a baby’s energy budget, and in times of rapid development, a baby can’t afford to slow their growth and brain down.
Baby fat isn’t a blanket, it’s a massive backup battery for running the human brain and body. When we look at it through an evolutionary lens, fat is not only kind, it’s essential to being human.
Love has nothing to do with objective conditions. And the pursuit of fat is always brighter and forward, never can be backward. So, just find your identity in the fat fetish community, before you can go out bravely. And keep in mind, never tag yourself with “fat fetish”, no one is monotonous.