“Am I too fat to date?” is indeed a harsh question that sometimes really troubles plus-sized people like me. It is not only a question that shows off the self-doubt triggered by body negativity, also it can be a psychological problem caused by self-perception disorder.
Don't think I'm making a too big deal out of it - while you really look at this problem, you will find that both boys and girls, both two sides of the dating, are asking the same question - “Am I too fat to date her?” “ “Am I too fat for meeting him?”. Hilariously, It's interesting that their questions are so well suited to each other that they can both give each other very appropriate advice for each other's questions on the online Q&A platform like Quora, Reddit, or others.
So, let us understand this: the question “Am I too fat to date” is never something objective argument for if your plus-sized dating is appropriate, but a complex of self-denial and body shaming. We will talk about it in the following context, and see how we really deal with it.
After we understand that to ask questions like “Am I too fat to date” is nothing but a nightmare illusion created by ourselves, to intimidate ourselves to avoid the potential emotional/ relationship failure. This is more like a psychological self-protection mechanism rather than it really helps people in some ways.
Not only does asking questions like “Am I too fat to date” does nothing help to us, but other people feel confused at the same time. It is not an isolated example that people feel impatient to those question about what sized girl I should date, should I date a girl (or boy) if I am fat.
So, let us be serious. To ask people “Am I too fat to date?” will do nothing good to you. Nor this kind of question can please others, sometimes some people even feel offended if you are asking. And just like what we did conclude, constant self-doubt and self-deny will cause unpredictable consequences to your mental health.
To conquer the devil of self-denial and body shame, the best keyword is to be brave.
You should understand that while you asking the question “Am I too fat to date”, you are not asking for an answer but you are about to activate your psychological defense. You are about to give up the chance, to give up your love, just for not being hurt by others.
The correct action is to face it: to face the problems and imperfections you are. To love yourself and your body. To find people who have like mind with you and can go along with you - if it is hard to find them in your local, try online. Pluscupid could be your best big-sized online community.
Date now. Don’t wait. You might think that your date will only be attracted to you when you’re at your ideal weight, but in fact, you are very like having the perfect shape for them.
Choose movement that makes you happy. Don’t force yourself to accept the value you are not get in.
See your body in the mirror and understand the fact that many people do love your shape.
Love your body, right this second, now. Appreciate the formidable presence that has gotten you where you are today. Have gratitude for all your body has done for you.
Nurture yourself by putting on lotion in front of a full-length mirror after your shower, then wear something you find pretty.
Look around to see who’s checking you out and feel your attractiveness.
Embrace your beautiful body – it’s where you live with.
Talk to people who like you, you can always find your plus sized mate on PlusCupid.
If you want to get more people who have an interest in your big body, you might want to join PlusCupid.
The PlusCupid is a big-sized people-oriented meeting & dating APP. You can find different people here, both BBW chat and BHM/ Or you can listen to friends about the tricks to avoid the fat talk, to build up your confidence.
PlusCupid is a wonderful place to meet more big-sized people and build up closer relationships with them. Also, PlusCupid is your best opportunity to get your BBW mates. If you need a long & stable relationship with your Mr./Ms. Right, and fight against fatphobia.
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Ultimately, it's important to remember that never ask the question like “Am I too fat to date”. the self-denial will promotes body dissatisfaction and harmful mental status. Instead, we should focus on self-care, be self-controlled, avoid using fat-talk to ourself, and help our friends recognize what we are, then date bravely. Also, you can try to find your date on PlusCupid.
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